This could also be the result of misapplying articles such as this one (http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2014-...) where women are taught to be dominant, and say things like "Stop interrupting me", and "I just said that". [Said article was making the rounds on Facebook among my professional female friends recently.]
Topics tend to be rehashed quite a lot in discussion, and sometimes people interrupt one another. It is entirely plausible that this probably affects women more than men. But if someone compensates by saying things like "I just said that", or "Stop interrupting me.", it is not surprising that they would get reviews that label them as abrasive; whereas they might just be trying to be more assertive than usual by following this sort of advice too literally.
Solutions? Perhaps a more holistic approach, where all parties involved are reminded that women might be less assertive, or be dominated in the conversation, and take steps to mitigate this. (Or possibly also being reminded that speaking is not
Topics tend to be rehashed quite a lot in discussion, and sometimes people interrupt one another. It is entirely plausible that this probably affects women more than men. But if someone compensates by saying things like "I just said that", or "Stop interrupting me.", it is not surprising that they would get reviews that label them as abrasive; whereas they might just be trying to be more assertive than usual by following this sort of advice too literally.
Solutions? Perhaps a more holistic approach, where all parties involved are reminded that women might be less assertive, or be dominated in the conversation, and take steps to mitigate this. (Or possibly also being reminded that speaking is not