Yes, even within a company my threshold for accepting a change can vary pretty widely depending on my experience and relationship with the author. For an external contributor or someone I've never collaborated with (by reviewing code or having my code reviewed), I don't accept the code until almost everything is worked out to my satisfaction. With someone I work with regularly, it's not uncommon to accept a change with a comment like "this is all good, but you need to take X into account which will change almost everything in this patch" (I exaggerate, but only slightly). I know whether an update could be problematic and whether it is necessary to see it again. Sometimes there are a couple of obvious ways that something could be done, they picked one but weren't tied to it if I had a reason for picking a different one, I picked a different one for $REASON.
Most are somewhere in between.
Though in some ways it works the other way around. For an unfamiliar open source contributor, I need to be confident that the change is worthwhile. I will be lenient on stylistic things, and I'll just land their patch and then fix it up afterwards. For someone I've worked with a bunch (whether a familiar contributor or a coworker), I will trust their opinion on the underlying quality of a change, but be less tolerant of unnecessary stylistic differences since they should have already come into alignment on those and it's more likely to be an oversight if they missed something. (Plus, I don't want to be fixing up their changes after the fact, given that >90% of patches will come from regular contributors.)
Most are somewhere in between.
Though in some ways it works the other way around. For an unfamiliar open source contributor, I need to be confident that the change is worthwhile. I will be lenient on stylistic things, and I'll just land their patch and then fix it up afterwards. For someone I've worked with a bunch (whether a familiar contributor or a coworker), I will trust their opinion on the underlying quality of a change, but be less tolerant of unnecessary stylistic differences since they should have already come into alignment on those and it's more likely to be an oversight if they missed something. (Plus, I don't want to be fixing up their changes after the fact, given that >90% of patches will come from regular contributors.)