Completely agree. We didn't agree to the bargain when we were born.
That'd be like adopting a adopting a puppy and expecting it to take care of you later because you cared for it and fed it for a few years.
That said, I'll do anything for my father and step mother, they've always treated me with love and compassion.
But my birth mother? She couldn't get the time of day from me. She donated an egg and a laundry list of ACEs, and still refuses to call my husband anything than "your.... Friend" even though we've been married ten years
