I am very much aware that people have sex in bathrooms (in restaurants, in bars, on planes). It is actually not a big deal, and one that most establishments treat as a mere nuisance: One restaurant in my area actually had a promotion that hinted that they were open to this.
Filter down to places where you send adults for drinks and the likelihood that anyone is going to treat it as a big deal falls even lower.
THAT is what is unbelievable, your laughable notion that we are sheltered notwithstanding.
and one that most establishments treat as a mere nuisance
I'm skeptical of this... I'm struggling to think of any reasonable bar in my area (i.e. anything below, say, nightclub level) where, if someone caught you having sex in the bathroom, you wouldn't be asked (politely) to take it elsewhere.
I don't think he's saying they wouldn't ask you to leave--especially since they probably found out about by way of a customer complaint. I believe he's just saying that they aren't going to make a big deal about it beyond asking you to leave, i.e. they aren't going to call the cops or issue a trespass warning.
But I still don't get the point being made - which now I re-read it seems to be that complaining to grouper is making a big thing of it.
It seems perfectly logical to me; if you're in a business relationship with someone and they send you a people who go and have sex in the toilet (something you wouldn't necessarily expect to happen) why wouldn't you pass on that they had to be thrown out?
What if the group had gotten drunk and smashed a table?
I spoke to some friends who work in bars about this, out of interest, and their thoughts were that, as an individual, if they caught someone having sex in the toilet they would be quite thrown by it. One guy had actually had it happen to him about 18 months ago and he said that he still tells that story with some regularity.
I think there is quite a margin between complaining "up the chain" and calling the cops (which certainly would be too big a deal).
