One thing to note: IME it's extremely tough to connect emotionally with a stranger over FaceTime. Once I realized this, I stopped counting my 100+ FTs as real dates.

My humble suggestion is to meet someone as soon as possible once you know you're interested (in a safe setting, ofc). This really cut down on churn for me.

There is no replacement for real-life live interaction!

I don’t know . I think that’s the problem.

You don't like the fellas you went out with? 0 for 120? Surely at least a few of them liked you. How many 2nd and 3rd dates did you have?

Almost all of them asked me out again, but there were really compelling reasons it wasn’t a fit. The ones I did go out with again and I really tried to stretch myself, usually ended up ghosting me. I think they were playing the field.

>but there were really compelling reasons it wasn’t a fit

Care to elaborate?

What are some of those reasons? To many here, it sounds like you're being too picky.

Almost 120 men asked you on a second date and you always found compelling reasons to not accept?

I think we have a winner.

Ffs. This piece of information should be sticked

This is literally the meme situation https://i.redd.it/zm3wo9fg9uv81.jpg

i think there are a shortage of men who want to have a baby with a 41 year old woman. market dynamics.

True that. An older woman makes me think birth defects, less agreeable, more jaded, less spontaneous, less flexible, worrying more, and less energetic for weekend adventures. These are mostly stereotypes that don't hold for all cases. The birth defects part is the only statistical one.

I (44m S NM NK MAANG) inadvertently have much younger gfs (19-27), Master's- / PhD-types who also tend to be more emotionally and life mature than most people of any age. I guess it might be "market dynamics" when I'm dating them and they announce that they're bi or pan, whether it's a college phase or they're actually that. I don't understand why that happens or why women try to set me up with other women. It doesn't make sense. I piss with the equipment I was issued and don't look a gift horse.

im not sure we are suppose to have preferences, these days.

Sorry, I don't know what you mean by that. If "supposed" implies judgements from vague "them", I don't really care what "they" think.

good

Numbers don't mean much either way. I used to date quantities of women randomly without any consideration to fit but they revealed themselves to be poor fits.

Smoking, drugs, bad habits, already had kids, alcoholism, emotional instability, poor attitude, ego out-of-control, lack of intellectual curiosity, judgmental (conservative or hipster), too boring, not many hobbies, low self-confidence, jealousy issues, cheater-type behaviors, psycho (cluster A B or C), external locus-of-control, taker rather than giver, and/or lack of excellence.

There's tons of women I've met who seem like catches but they're invariably coupled.

PS: What's weird in my life recently is coupled women wanting to be "friends" with me. I'm fine if that's what it is, but the vibes and actions are incongruent to that.