It's even more insane and hilarious with 4 people trying to coordinate things. I personally found the best way is to assign everyone a station based on their preference/skills e.g. one friend loves playing with shields, so they are always in charge. Then find out who can steer the best and give them that as permanent role... granted it can be slightly less fun than the chaos, but I find utter chaos eventually gets old after you've died 100 times on the same level because everyone's running around trying to control everything.