> That doesn’t have a good ring to it either as pedophiles often claim they were in fact seduced by their victims.

Guilty people often claim things that would be mitigating or exonerating if true; that doesn't make it a “bad ring” to have fiction in which the mitigating or exonerating thing is true. (And, just to be clear, what Spielberg was suggesting would, IMO, only be modestly mitigating, and only even that in combination with Spielberg’s pushback on age, and even then not really appropriate background for with the rest of the film. But it was definitely reeling things back from what Lucas was suggesting.)

The notion that victims of sexual assault are somehow themselves to blame is fairly widespread and not restricted to this specific topic. That has been suggested about rape victims for millennia and is even now specifically protested against (I just now saw a postcard in a coffee shop advertising an upcoming “slut walk” in Denver to address this issue). To me, the societal stays of the notion makes the aforementioned pedophile’s claim different than a criminal’s usual denials. For them to put that into the movie would serve to legitimize the notion that adolescents seduce grown men, which seems rather non-progressive.