Personal attacks will get you banned here. You can't post like this on HN, regardless of how wrong someone is or you feel their life choices about intimate matters have been.

Please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and don't post like this again.

Go easy.

Don't shame someone's escapism in the face of something life altering. You don't know his suffering, but try and come across more empathetic.

My wife and I had a little chat about this yesterday when my comment got popular, with me expressing some regret for working so much. She told me she doesn’t really remember much of anything about the first year. Then she shrugged and said that’s probably the most useful thing I could have done.