>and so do you. Don't even pretend you don't, no one will believe you.

You're projecting a bit. I try hard -- consciously -- not to shut down and shut out people who need grace as much as I do (either more or less externally-visibly).

Your own code of ethics is not universal. There are people who think and operate differently from you.

Which is exactly the point of not discriminating whenever it's avoidable.

Your code of grace is also not universal and is almost certainly the minority.