A house that can support a family of 9 is not cheap even in Ohio if you want to "life of wealth and luxury".
You'll be paying over $1M for a 5 or 6 bedroom house in a "nice" part of Columbus (i.e. German Village), and you'll be paying around $1.2M for such a house in a decent (though not upper class) neighborhood in Silicon Valley.
While you can spend that much for a home in SV, you certainly don't have to.